I live in a multicultural city and work in multicultural contexts. Intercultural or cross-cultural communication can be challenging, and very rewarding when we get it right. There can be much laughter and significant bonds built between people of different cultures.
I'm thinking relationships between any two people can be cross-cultural. Different families do things differently and no two mommas agree on everything. So when two adults are in a relationship, expectations can vary and things can get confusing. It sure helps when we share or understand each other's language.
Do you speak the same language as those who are listening, or trying to listen, to you?
Aids in communication.
Reduces frustration.
The same is true with love languages.
Do you know your spouse's and children's love languages, or that of your friend or co-workers? Pay attention to the nuances of their response when you make an effort in the following areas. Gauge the response and then follow through in speaking their language, not just your own.
Go to Gary Chapman's site for more info, assessment tools and interesting conversations about Love Languages.
Chapman's Five Love Languages:
Since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions:
Emotional Experiences
The number one emotional experience reported by folks is feeling the presence of God in their lives.
The emotional high of being in love (which generally lasts around 2 years) is the second highest emotional experience that people reportedly have.
That is why it can be so difficult to try and talk some sense into someone who is in the midst of falling in love.
Chapman stated that obsessive love can render people mentally incompetent. "There's not much difference between being in love and being insane."
I'm thinking relationships between any two people can be cross-cultural. Different families do things differently and no two mommas agree on everything. So when two adults are in a relationship, expectations can vary and things can get confusing. It sure helps when we share or understand each other's language.
Do you speak the same language as those who are listening, or trying to listen, to you?
Aids in communication.
Reduces frustration.
The same is true with love languages.
Do you know your spouse's and children's love languages, or that of your friend or co-workers? Pay attention to the nuances of their response when you make an effort in the following areas. Gauge the response and then follow through in speaking their language, not just your own.
Go to Gary Chapman's site for more info, assessment tools and interesting conversations about Love Languages.
Chapman's Five Love Languages:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
Since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions:
- How do I express love to others?
- What do I complain about the most?
- What do I request most often?
Emotional Experiences
The number one emotional experience reported by folks is feeling the presence of God in their lives.
The emotional high of being in love (which generally lasts around 2 years) is the second highest emotional experience that people reportedly have.
That is why it can be so difficult to try and talk some sense into someone who is in the midst of falling in love.
Chapman stated that obsessive love can render people mentally incompetent. "There's not much difference between being in love and being insane."
Your comments?
Comments
Thanks for the reminder!