Introverts can be witty, but they're less The 3 Stooges and more Woody Allen. Introverts process their emotions, thoughts, and observations internally. Some introverts aren't what you'd typically label "shy" and can strike up conversations with anyone. These introverts enjoy talking and listening to people, and going tout socially. But most introverts would rather be at home.
From How An Introvert Handles Awkward Situations by Ron Edmondson
Ron Edmondson writes, "To most Extroverts entering a crowded room of unknown people is not an awkward setting, but to someone wired like me, entering that same room, when not purposefully “working”, forces me into my introverted shell.
Here’s how I (Ron) tend to respond when I enter a room full of people I don’t know:
- I find something to occupy my time – Play with my phone, doodle on paper, read my Kindle (you wonder why I carry this stuff…)
- I pretend I don’t see people…often I don’t…but I’m likely to pretend just in case.
- I hide in the lobby until the last possible moment…
- I find someone I do know and latch on to them…
- I secretly hope some likable Extrovert will approach me and break the ice… (Really, it’s not that I don’t want to talk, it’s just starting the conversation that’s often difficult.)
Ron continues, "The fact that an Introvert is in crowds of people does not mean he or she is comfortable beginning conversations. It also doesn’t mean the Introvert has no care or concern for the people in the room or that he or she doesn’t like being around people. It doesn’t even mean the Introvert has nothing to say, although he or she would probably prefer not to be put on the spot to say it. It’s that an Introvert’s preferred interaction with people is often more of listening than it is of talking and more one-to-one than speaking in large groups at the same time. For some reason, that I don’t understand, an Introvert can speak to a large crowd (the larger the better), but when it comes to having group conversation, an Introvert is more likely to feel awkward."
How about you? Introvert or extrovert and what difference does that make to your relationships, your effectiveness in your job?
Comments
It's often very difficult to not only think-outside-the-box, but to be outside-the-box. Nature generally isn't understanding of "difference" and most people, without meaning to, are usually the same.
Just an opinion. not a fact!