What I "see" has much to do with "me".

"The main thing to avoid when meeting people is to be suspicious — from which comes adjudgment. I have many examples, which prove that everyone judges others according to his spiritual circumstance. For example, imagine that it was necessary for a person to stand by the roadside at night, and walking past him were three people. On seeing him, one of the three would think that he is waiting for an illicit rendezvous; another would imagine him to be undoubtedly a thief — he looks suspicious; the third would think that no doubt the person arranged to go to church with someone and was now waiting for him. Thus, the three saw the same person, in the same place, but concluded about him entirely differently. And this evidently, corresponds to their spiritual situation."

Abba Dorotheus

Any examples of this kind of misjudgement in your experiences?

I heard Ken Blanchard say,

"Have you ever seen a motive? No?
Just as you cannot see a motive, you cannot judge a motive."

You can see what someone does or hear what they say, but that is really all you have to go on.

Jesus had something to say about it too,

27"But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, . . . 31Do to others as you would have them do to you.

32"If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them. 33And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' do that. 34And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' lend to 'sinners,' expecting to be repaid in full. . . . 36Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

38Give, and it will be given to you. . . . For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." Luke 7