25 September 2008

Trust! Can ya believe it?

Have you noticed the number of times "trust" is mentioned in the electioneering?
Can you trust the ones talking about trust?
I found the following on a blog, Without Wax. It claims to be the authentic thing, not something doctored with wax to just make it look good. I like what I see so far.

We all have a trust-meter. Every time you interact with another person your trust-meter goes up or down based on a set of factors that would include such things as the person’s truth-telling record, their commitment keeping pattern, their confidentiality, their consistency in character, etc.

All of this happens subconsciously. So when you have a friend that gossips about another one of your friends or doesn’t show when they say they’ll show or you catch them in a lie, your trust-meter goes down.

When your trust-meter goes down the natural tendency is to begin to withdraw. And generally the further we withdraw the more suspicious we become. This almost always either stunts or at least redefines the relationship.

Now some of you need to realize your trust-meter is broken. It’s giving you false readings. Because of the baggage from your past your trust-meter is all jacked up.

So what do you do? The wise person when confronted with a relationship where the trust meter is headed south will engage instead of withdraw. You need to engage in that relationship and sit down and talk about the issues. Tell them about the doubts creeping into your mind and heart.

Find out if there is actually betrayal going on or if you’re getting false readings.

So tell me. Do you have problem trusting other people? Do you think your trust meter gives you false readings from time to time? What are you doing about it?
Comment on Without Wax.

I was getting false readings earlier today and a friend set me straight. Now I can re-engage in conversation and take things a bit further on to more solid ground.

1 comment:

Pete Wilson said...

I hope the post was helpful. Thanks so much for the link!!

Love your blog and look forward to reading more!